Tonight I learned the man who claims to love me lied to me about nearly every aspect of his life.
I am sad, heartbroken, disappointed, shocked, angry, frustrated, amazed, relieved, and now I am Single.
I realized that in the end, he was only lying to himself. It was never about me. It was about him. He lied because he didn't believe himself to be enough so he created this person of what he should have been. I don't get it. Why lie about who you are? I don't do dishonesty and as a result he now has to find another place to live. Not my problem. I'm done. I feel nothing but heartbroken relief.
And then I saw this quote:
People think that a liar gains a victory over his victim. What I've learned is that a lie is an act of self-abdication, because one surrenders one's reality to the person to whom one lies, making that person one's master, condemning oneself from then on to faking the sort of reality that person's view requires to be faked. And if one gains the immediate purpose of the lie - the price one pays is the destruction of that which was intended to serve. The man who lies to the world, is the world's slave from then on.
Ayn Rand
